Regina
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Post by Regina on Dec 10, 2002 21:51:03 GMT -5
Well as you can guess i am new to this site. I am a 29 year old mother of two and i am moving to sweden. You guessed it! I fell in love with a wonderful man and plan to join him in Avesta. And now that the decision is made we are realising just how wexspensive and time consuming this can be. But we are hard headed so nothing is going to deter us from our course. Any advice that ya'll can give us would be very helpful.
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Post by Carolyn on Dec 11, 2002 0:10:54 GMT -5
Oh lordy, Regina, you don't have to tell us about time and expense! Been there, done that, all of us, but it's soooooooo worth it. I'm at the older end of the scale, I fell in love with my husband when I was 49 and made the move to Sweden in the year 2000 just before my 50th birthday. No regrets either, it's been a dream come true for me. But we all see the downs occasionally too, which is why we have this site, to see everyone through the momentary twinges and sometimes, just out and out screaming hissy-fits. Welcome, and jump in when you need support or a question answered!  |
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Post by Leslie on Dec 11, 2002 7:21:32 GMT -5
Welcome Regina! Where is Avesta in Sweden? I am living outside of Stockholm.
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Post by Natooke on Dec 11, 2002 8:54:09 GMT -5
Avesta is North-West of Stockholm  |
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Post by Carolyn on Dec 11, 2002 10:00:22 GMT -5
Okay, we've got Americans in Falun and Borlänge as well. Heather, are you lurking out there?
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Post by LadyDuff on Dec 11, 2002 12:42:35 GMT -5
Yes that would be nice! If everyone can make it to Sollentuna you are welcome to pay the Duffs a visit... ;D We have a cat though, just wanted to let you know about that..
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Post by Natooke on Dec 11, 2002 14:32:42 GMT -5
Regina
We are raising 2 kids and if you have any questions about daycare etc ... well anything ... just drop a line or two. ;D
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Regina
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Post by Regina on Dec 12, 2002 22:58:56 GMT -5
 a question or two Natooke?! Try over a hundred of them. The question is more like where do i start and where do i post them? LOL I have a two year old and a three year old (Dalton James and Dallas Elizabeth). They are my life! No doubt about it. So, yes, I have been wondering about daycare and about them learning swedish and about my possibly attending college and finishing my degree and about getting a job and about alot of other things. I feel like a walking question mark here lately. I know the reasons for my moving to sweden with my children but at times I have second thoughts. Not about Lennart, my boyfriend but about how can i take my kids so far away from their families (fathers, grandparents, etc.)? I am determined to do this but i guess i am wanting someone to tell me it's ok to consider my happiness over everyone elses involved. It's a damn tough question. I love Lennart and know that we will be happy with him but ... seem to be alot of but's. Anyway, I guess what I am saying is HELP!!!!!!!! 
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Post by Leslie on Dec 13, 2002 3:44:44 GMT -5
Regina,
My son's middle name is Dalton! It's after my grandfather!
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Post by Natooke on Dec 13, 2002 4:13:41 GMT -5
a question or two Natooke?! Try over a hundred of them. The question is more like where do i start and where do i post them? LOL I have a two year old and a three year old (Dalton James and Dallas Elizabeth). They are my life! No doubt about it. So, yes, I have been wondering about daycare and about them learning swedish and about my possibly attending college and finishing my degree and about getting a job and about alot of other things. I feel like a walking question mark here lately. I know the reasons for my moving to sweden with my children but at times I have second thoughts. Not about Lennart, my boyfriend but about how can i take my kids so far away from their families (fathers, grandparents, etc.)? I am determined to do this but i guess i am wanting someone to tell me it's ok to consider my happiness over everyone elses involved. It's a damn tough question. I love Lennart and know that we will be happy with him but ... seem to be alot of but's. Anyway, I guess what I am saying is HELP!!!!!!!! Hi Regina... or should I say Dear HELP! I do understand the concerns you both have  Our kids were born here, so I don't have any kind of solid advice about bringing kids over and adjusting. When will you be moving? I would suggest your Swede (unless he has) make contact with the kommun in Avesta because many daycares do have a waiting list and this would give the caregivers time to do research and how to help your 2 to adjust. When you do have a place for them ... parents have 2 weeks (i think) to be there with the child to help adjust ... on the 4th day they'll ask you (they may depends on the child) to go for a hour ... and so on until the child has that trust and comfortness with his/her teacher. I know some of the ladies here have children and maybe they could add on to this thread ;D Dalton & Dallas are very young that you'll be surprised how much Swedish they do pick up ... we use OPOL method (One Parent One Language) and some kids can blend the 2 ... mine did now they switch. I'll be back later, but just to assure you Regina ... you are not alone in your feelings and the best advice I can give you is to take it one day at a time after the move ... take small steps otherwise it can become overwhelming. |
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Post by Sabeine on Dec 13, 2002 17:12:19 GMT -5
There are several people on this site that moved here with their children. I myself have none, but I do understand your apprehensions. It is a big step. This is your choice to make not someone else's. You may experience a lot of ups and downs during the wait process. You may start to second guess everything. I got so nervous the week before I was to move that I called up my (swedish) boyfriend and screamed at him. The ugly words just flew out of my mouth. It wasn't my finest moment. Then I hung up the phone and cried. After I pulled it together I called back and asked him if I was crazy to move, and he told me "no you wouldn't be crazy if you did not move, but I think you might regret it". He was right, if I hadn't of moved I always would have wondered if could have been good. I'm glad I moved. It was a good choice for me. Figuring if it is right for you is something you'll have to decide on your own. Ask all the questions you want on this forum. Many have been here for years, some for a few months.  |
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Post by Carolyn on Dec 13, 2002 17:18:43 GMT -5
Sabeine, don't forget all those phone calls we shared when we both thought we were nuts AND we had both had our share of calling our SO's and going nuts at them over the phones, only to regret it once we hung up. My god, what we went through, girlfriend!  |
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Post by LadyDuff on Dec 13, 2002 17:31:55 GMT -5
oh yes, I know what you mean, Ive been there too!! We had our share of fights on the MSN because of us not knowing when we could be together!! Many hours spent crying and yelling!! Once we were close to breaking up, the worse night of my life! Never cried as much as that night! thanks to a friend of ours who had made the opposite move ( from Sweden to Canada for her Canuck) we made it and are now happily married! Sometimes I think that if it hadnt been for her, I would not be LadyDuff today!!
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Regina
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Post by Regina on Dec 16, 2002 2:48:38 GMT -5
We havn't had any fights yet. i don't think? anyway, i do have days were i get so depressed and well ... sometimes i don't want to talk to even him. then i do and i feel better ... till i hang up and then i feel like i am falling deeper and deeper into a black hole. i wish this were over with ... i feel like i am going crazy! but i love him. i love him so much. but i love my home too and my financial situation sucks! beginning to think that God hates me! oh man i am going crazy! i just want to thank ya'll. eveyone has been so nice. great! now i am crying again. has just been one of those days. sorry. anyway, i love the way they do daycare there. that sounds wonderful! and leslie i think it was, my son's middle name he got from his grandfather. his first name i picked under the influence of all the drugs they gave me at the hospital LOL just kidding. anyway thanks everyone and thanks for letting me vent on here. i do very much appreciate it. it's hard for me to talk to my friends and family here cause well, they don't want me to go. LOL imagine that! anyway thanks! sorry i know i talk too much! LOL |
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Post by Carolyn on Dec 16, 2002 9:16:04 GMT -5
Regina,
Trust me, girlfriend, ALL of us at this website (well, at least the American ones on the way to Sweden) spent days in tears and indecision. Heck, one of the reasons we formed this website is because 5 of us got together on line to provide moral support to each other, because we were ALL doubting making the move (not our love for our Swedes). And two of us were married to the guys at the time!
And I can't count the telephone calls Sabeine and I had back and forth for at least the last month before I finally moved, "What am I doing? Am I nuts?" It goes on.
Yeah, it's not easy leaving behind family for most of us (some are grateful to be as far away as possible). One of us lost her mother after the move to Sweden, which is not easy at all. But the whole point is, moving forward. You've found a good man, who loves you, who you love and who is also willing and ready to be a pappa to your kids too. You can't hardly ask for more than that in life.
You're not alone anymore either. You've got us, and we know EXACTLY what you're going through because we've all been there.
Hugs,
Carolyn
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a question or two Natooke?! Try over a hundred of them. The question is more like where do i start and where do i post them? LOL I have a two year old and a three year old (Dalton James and Dallas Elizabeth). They are my life! No doubt about it. So, yes, I have been wondering about daycare and about them learning swedish and about my possibly attending college and finishing my degree and about getting a job and about alot of other things. I feel like a walking question mark here lately. I know the reasons for my moving to sweden with my children but at times I have second thoughts. Not about Lennart, my boyfriend but about how can i take my kids so far away from their families (fathers, grandparents, etc.)? I am determined to do this but i guess i am wanting someone to tell me it's ok to consider my happiness over everyone elses involved. It's a damn tough question. I love Lennart and know that we will be happy with him but ... seem to be alot of but's. Anyway, I guess what I am saying is HELP!!!!!!!! 
Our kids were born here, so I don't have any kind of solid advice about bringing kids over and adjusting. 
